PEACE

I believe there are many ways of finding peace within. Any issues going on at this moment are not happening to us, they are happening for us. Meaning, even those undesirable circumstances will serve a purpose in our lives. No matter the difficulty. The harder the issue the harder the lesson and the strength you will develop. The bigger the loss, the bigger the resiliency. We are capable of working on our inner peace in the middle of chaos. We just need silence. We need to feel it all. The sadness, the frustration, the anger, the pain. That is what is going to gives us the answers. If we allow this emotions , we will know what needs healing. We surrender ourselves to the situation. Look at it straight in the eye. No fear, just trust. It will be resolved, it will pass.
Hardships happen and these are perfect moments to bring out all of our coping mechanisms and tools. I find it comforting to know that even after a few years of dealing with a hardship that calm and quiet times come. So I know, in my existence, I am not what happens to me. It just is, I can let it be. Independent from me. Something that my body or mind is experiencing at the moment, but that it isn't me. We don't go around saying I am the flu, but we do go around thinking I am depressed. Why not change the narrative and the constant catastrophizing of things? If we become an observer of the particular issue we can become the healer, not the disorder or disease. I choose to be a healer.
I feel all of it, let it go through my body and mind, and then bring it out. Talking, writing or researching, I am already bringing it out of my head and, by doing so, the problem or issue becomes tangible and an easier concept to grasp. I guess in an abstract way, I look at it for what it is, and not for what could be. And I become the healer. It is easier said than done, but if we start practicing with little things, and changing the narrative in our heads, the smaller problems become solved by our will, and grace and loving care. You fix what you can control, and you let the other stuff you can't for others to come in and help.

When a problem arrises our fight or flight response kicks in. Thankfully for us this will protect us from the "danger". Unfortunately, we live in a world that has been triggering our response, and our cortisol levels are so high! Too high. What saves us from danger is what also keeps us in disarray. One of the most important hormones we produce and yet, too much of a good thing is not good. I need a calm brain in order to find solutions for my issues. For that I seek a calm brain. I strongly recommend breath work. It is a simple accessible, calming tool during times of stress., It is a way to calm your nervous system to find a clear mind for all the things to come. It is simply Find the one that suits you best! I recently was recommended the 4,7,8 combination, however the 5,5,5,5 version is what one works for me. There are links to this method on my resources page. My daughter finds 4,4,4 to be her number. I love how it resets my vagus nerve, which we now have been reading more and more about. polyvagal world, they call it. I find, that calming my anguish as I have also read many, many times, calms my digestion. Everything is connected. It is supposed to be in perfect homeostasis. Our body has the ability to be in this state of mind. Miraculously, without us even knowing the functions it requires for this balance. How marvelous. I am sitting writing this and my body is working like the most amazing invention. And it’s working for me.

I also believe that there is not such a thing as a perfect balance. Trying to achieve perfection could be exhaustive and endless. What we can do is follow our intuition and really observe and listen to our body. Our senses are constantly telling us what is going on. The less we distract ourselves the better we can observe ourselves. When we pause the constant stimulation of the world we can truly be in touch with all this signs. Anything that takes away our peace is what we should focus on.

I leave you now, knowing that you are loved, guided and protected. My peace. which wasn't so apparent last night during an insomnia episode, has returned. The thoughts that invaded my brain, have quieted down. Today, I can write again.

Maybe today you start, or you continue.