PURPOSE

Let’s talk about finding a purpose in life. People spend so much time searching for this so called “purpose”. Their true calling, their mission. Some people have found it already. Other people, like me, were given many hats. So for those of us with many hats, it is ok to change them daily. We are meant to be chameleons. Adapting to our surroundings. Maybe this “discombobulated” and multi-focused brain of ours is meant to be this flexible. For a reason. So many labels and studies have been done. So many boxes we try to fit in. In reality, this doesn’t matter. We all have the same main organs. We all share the same emotions, and human qualities. Some more acutely than others. In the 70’s they talked about Indigo children. Unique humans that were born with different traits. But aren’t we all different? I am a twin, and I am very different than my sister. We share the same parents, the same friends and room growing up, and yet we ended up becoming very different. What happened there? Well, different experiences. My brain has been capturing different experiences and that makes me unique. My responses to life are different. How incredible our lives are. How exciting the possibilities are.

The weakness in others, may be our strengths. Super complex concept, I may add. The interesting fact is that we all are here now. Existing in this moment together for a reason. In a nucleolus of a family or society for a reason. Do we know the reason? No. We don’t. We just wake up and do what we are supposed to do. If you live on a farm, well you attend to the farm. If you live in a city you attend to your role in the city. So everyone has a purpose really. We all do. Whether we think our purpose is meaningful and important that’s very subjective. But in reality the influence we have in this world, in this planet and in history, is immense. Butterfly effect they call it. And yes, it can be felt across the world. Why? Because our energy prevails. Whether it is positive or negative, it prevails. Our intention is what matters. So what are we doing about that? Despite our greatest efforts to have the best situations, some things are simply out of our hands. So when things don’t go our way, what type of energy are we throwing to the world? Is it gratitude for the experience, in hope for lessons to be learned and growth? Or is it frustration, impatience and anger?Bitterness and despair. Why do we think we can control so much? What we can do, though, is ACCEPT. And TRUST. And LOVE.

We can hope that the day will end up better. We can be grateful for opening our eyes every morning. We can count our blessings. Because no matter how horrible our day or situation is, we still have so much more. And on those days where the sun doesn’t shine often - like where I live, here in Wisconsin - you retrieve. You find a place during the day to reflect, to observe, to warm up your heart with happy memories. We look out for the so-called glimmers. They are everywhere. We just have to stay present, bring the awareness outwards, outside your brain.


Pay attention to your body reacting to the elements. Move your eyes and look at your hands, what are they in touch with, how does that make you feel. Look up, what do you see, find a window, look at the clouds, how are they moving? What do you hear, how loud or silent is it? How are you breathing - are they deep or fast breaths? Feel your heart beating. This is practicing mindfulness. Stay here for a moment. Enjoy your presence. Your existence. Practicing this many times a day will help us get out of those ruminating thoughts. The spirals will become shorter and the light will shine faster.
Journaling, meditating, therapy, acupuncture, yoga, Ayurveda, Western medicine, why not? Exercise, walks in nature, listening to music, dancing - all or none of the above. Finding on a daily basis what brings us joy, and peace. It is so uniquely individual. Different from one human to the next. What makes me happy could make another person cringe. What gives me peace puts others to sleep. We just have to find the right little and simple forms of peace giving moments. They can change every day. But the more we experience this peace, the more we crave it. After all, it is a “dope moment” that we are looking for. Full of Dopamine for our brain.
Why not socializing? Sitting in cafes, people watching. Sometimes talking is so necessary, sometimes silence is key. Now let’s make peace also with the noise in the world. It is invasive and loud, but in small doses it is so fun! We can schedule a little bit of this fun during the day, with purpose. Dosing our engagement in people’s lives and accomplishments, their travels, looks and lifestyles, and focusing on ours. Becoming our own influencers. Gathering inspiration through others. But ultimately doing what we like. Celebrating their achievements without falling in the rabbit hole of comparison and jealousy.
The grass is not greener on the other side, it’s just different. Understanding that people are eager to show their best faces and hide the bad days. All these filters of society are so toxic and unrealistic. Be aware of how much external acceptance we are constantly requiring to feel happy and fulfilled. To fit, to be included. To know that we are already a part. We belong in the best possible way, in the place where we are. Our existence is changing the world. Our voice is heard, just open your mouth and you will see. Our opinion matters and turns heads, lets make sure we speak with kindness. Starting with ourselves. Our own narrative, pouring all day down our body and actions. Judging harshly. Let us feel. Let us be.